whatisstonebutch

I am a Stone Butch. Stone in this case meaning "very". I was born female but Butch is my gender; the two gender system described by the word "woman" does not fit me at all. "Man" fits much better but it is not a perfect fit either. I am not a male but you can call me "sir" and use masculine pronouns of "he" and "him". Don't call me woman, wimin, womyn, gal, lady, girl or ma'am. Ever.

I am transgender. This is different from transsexual. I do not want to change my body to become male. But most people call me he and "sir". Very few people call me she. I am much, much closer to what most people would call "man" than "woman". I am not a male but in my own way, I am a man. A Stone Butch man. I am not a woman in any sense of the word that most people understand. My identity defies conventional description. Butch is an energy all its own, an identity unique unto itself. That is why Butch is my gender and I walk through life as the Stone Butch man that I am. It is hard to find a language to describe a transgender Stone Butch like me that will be universally understood.

I dress in men's clothes down to my boxer shorts. My hair is what you call masculine, a regular guy's barber shop cut...I am 6'2" and have a naturally deep voice that does not give away my biological sex. I walk, talk, eat, love and live as the Stone Butch that I am. Femmes rock my world. Andro dykes are my sisters. Other butches and Stone Butches are my brothers. Butch is not a word that "describes" me. It *is* me. I am Butch the noun, not butch the adjective. My identity as *a* Butch is sacred to me. I walk the walk and I talk the talk. I live with it everyday. It is *NOT* a role that I choose to play. I have no more choice in this than I had a choice in my biological gender. I live it 24 hours a day, every day of the year. I can't ever put it away, nor do I want to. I am *proud* to be a Stone Butch.

Butch the adjective is descriptive of a female who is masculine, yet woman identified. They generally pass as women who "look butch", though some may look like a Stone Butch. They still identify as a woman unlike Stone Butches. Most Butches fall into this category, and may also call themselves "soft butch". Then there are andro dykes who are sometimes called "butchy". Often they are mistaken as butches or call themselves butch even though they are very woman identified and wear women's clothes. Some also just "butch up" for the weekend. Stone Butches sometimes call them "Saturday Night Butches"

Butch is not identified by what you do. Heck, I am Butch when I cook or sew on a button. It is an energy, an amalgamation of action, thought processes, look, desire, tastes and interests.

Big Dog