Leather List Definitions 3

Pony Play -- Pony play combines elements of bondage, display, control and service to create a unique kink that is enjoyed by a very active subgroup within the BDSM community. Basically, in pony play, the submissive takes the role of a pony and is used and presented as such. Pony play can include sophisticated, lovely and expensive “rigs” including harnesses, saddles, bridles and even carts. The pony can carry or pull the dominant or can be put through elaborate dressage movements guided by the signals of either a mounted rider or dismounted trainer. See Animal Play

Pushing Limits -- The gradual expansion of a dominant's and a submissive repertoire as he or she gains confidence and seeks new challenges. A wise axiom is "Never say, 'I'll never'."

Queening -- A dominant woman sitting on a submissive person's face for the purposes of breath control. Purists insist that cunnilingus should not take place, but it often does.

S&M -- Sadism and Masochism -- A term often used to describe the BDSM scene; however, it is falling into disrepute because it is both inaccurate (Dominants are not sadists) and overly limited (All submissives are not masochists).

Sadist -- An individual who enjoys causing pain in a non-consensual manner or regardless of the presence of absence of consent.

Safe, Sane & Consensual -- A slogan popular in the scene defining the components of proper play. Like any slogan, it is oversimplified and the topic of much debate, but it does get its point across.

Safe Word -- A word or phrase which permits the submissive to withdraw consent and terminate the scene at any point without endangering the illusion that the dominant is in complete control.

Saint Catherine's Wheel -- A vertical wheel to which a submissive can be strapped and spun around.

Saint Andrew's Cross -- An X-shaped cross.

SAM -- Smart Ass Masochist. A pseudo submissive who attempts to control everything the dominant does.

Scat -- A slang term for scatophilia, taking pleasure in playing with and sometimes eating feces. While this is occasionally used as a means of humiliation, it presents a relatively severe health risk, not limited to AIDS and hepatitis.

Scene (The) -- The gamut of BDSM activities and people considered as a whole. Example: "The scene contains some of the nicest people I have ever met."

Sensory Deprivation -- A form of restraint where all sensory input is systematically cut off through blindfolds, ear plugs or earphones and secure but non-painful bondage.

Slave -- Often used interchangeably with submissive. However, generally reflecting a more intense level of submission or non-sexual or sexual-plus submission. For example, a slave might be someone who remains in a 24-hour-per-day submission and cooks, cleans and, otherwise, takes care of a dominant's house. See submissive.

Slow Word -- A signal by the submissive that things are getting too intense and you should change or decrease the stimulation.

Stapling -- Temporary piercing and lacing done with a surgical stapler and sterile medical staples.

Strapple -- An elongated paddle with a bit more flex so that is something intermediate between a strap and a paddle.

Sting -- A sensation from a toy that is "stingy," as distinguished from "thud." Intense surface sensation.

Submissive -- An individual who gives up power in a BDSM relationship for the mutual pleasure of those involved.

Suspension -- A set of techniques for suspending a submissive using ropes, webbing or chain so that no part of the body touches the floor. This is a highly specialized technique and great care must be used to prevent damage.

Switch (Switchable) -- A person who enjoys both the dominant/top and submissive/bottom roles. A switch may be dominant to one person and submissive with another or may be dominant or submissive with the same person at different times.